Thursday, February 21, 2008

Love and Logic Day 2

So yesterday started the Love and Logic experiment. like they say in the book;

Love and Logic parents look forward for their child to misbehave so that every mistake can turn into a learning opportunity.

So yesterday when Choriço didn't listen to me on the way home from nursery I simply told him; You are not listening to me, when we get home you will have to choose if you want to go to your room for some quiet time or if you want to give me a toy. He started fuzzying but I said; if you start to fuzz you will have to give me another toy or stay longer in your room. He stopped.

When we got home I said to him that because he didn't obey me he would now have to choose. Of course he couldn't but started crying so I took him to his room, asked if he wanted the door opened or closed and left him with the door closed. He didn't cry much and soon came out calm. We repeated this process three time during the night. And boy did he scream. :) But I stayed calm and we had a nice night.

Today is the day for the granny test. The granny test is basically going to granny's and leave when I say so. If he doesn't listen he will not go there tomorrow and play with his cousin. We are having serious trouble with him refusing to leave her house. No more of that!

I am mentoring and preparing myself several times a day by reading the fact sheet I made. Somehow I actually feel calm, I can do this! :)

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

The Love and Logic experiment

One of the absolutely best books I have read in my life, and I have read many, is not a fiction book but a book about how to raise a happy child.

My friend lent me the book " Love and Logic Magic- Practical Parenting from birth to six years" by Jim and Charles Fay. You don't raise a happy child by doing everything it wants but actually the opposite; by setting limits and giving choices. I could probably talk myself warm about this book but instead I refer you to their Love&Logic website. There you can find more information as well as articles.

I read this book during the weekend, I like it so much that I translated it into Portuguese for my husband, no not the whole book but around 10 pages. This is to make sure that he understands it as well and we can work together. He has yet to read it but we are starting it today. I also made a sheet with the basics to put on the fridge as well as a worksheet for us to record how it goes.

I got even more triggered to do this after I spoke to Choriço's caretaker at the nursery.  Reason I asked was because he kept saying he was "put in the corner" for misbehaving but he kept saying he didn't do anything. So this morning I asked her when I left him there. (Note that Choriço was clinging during the conversation holding my leg tightly, something that rarely happens, he didn't say one word-very unusual) She said that he raises his voice all the time and doesn't obey and that is why he is warned and if he doesn't obey he has to sit and watch without participating.

When we finished talking Choriço really held me tight and I asked if he was embarrassed and he said yes. Which I actually take as a good sign. Afterwards I told my husband what she had said and how Choriço had reacted, I think even he understand we need to start putting some limits here at home.

So from today our New life with Practical Parenting and Love and Logic starts. It will be hard, oh I am preparing myself, but I hope it will all be worth it. Or I am sure. i will try and keep you updated as to how it goes.

Do you have any Love and logic parenting experience? Please tell me!

Thursday, February 14, 2008

I will always remember Feb 14 2008

I will always remember this morning, February 14th. It was the morning when I woke up without little Choriço beside me.

No, nothing bad has happened, in fact something wonderful happened. It is sad but wonderful. Choriço decided to sleep in his own bed yesterday. At first we thought he was just kidding around but he insisted. My DH tried to go and get him three times but each time he woke up and got mad and went back to his own bed.

I told my husband that it was better to leave him there so I arranged the bed and put blankets on the floor incase he would fall off. I was worried he would fall off because he normally sleep next to the wall in our room but in his room the wall is on the opposite side. But this morning when I went to wake him up he was sleeping next to wall so I guess it didn’t matter too much.

He said he will sleep in his room tonight as well. We’ll see about that *lol*

Wow, my baby is getting big!

(It was nice to have more space in bed though… but don’t tell anyone I said so) J

Monday, February 11, 2008

A very productive weekend

As I told you in my last post I had a little surprise for my husband when he got home. It took forever for him to leave the TV and go in to the room. I was of course quiet, oh that was hard, but once he got up and opened the closed door I was behind him waiting for a reaction.

And it wasn't that bad. The colors didn't really turn out the way I wanted (hmm that sounds familiar) but it looks nice. And I managed to convince my husband that lilac would be really nice. So now during the weekend we have been painting the rest of the room. Of course I was thrilled when my husband said he actually likes it!

So now our room is light pink, dark pink and lilac. Of course I will show you photos, stay put!

We also did some shopping. We bought a wardrobe and a shelving unit on Saturday. So now we will have lots of space and my little work at home corner will be even better. I can finally remove all my paperwork from the wardrobe and put it away at a more appropriate place. Thankfully! The wardrobe and shelving unit should arrive on Wednesday, can't wait!

My house is finally starting to feel like a real home, our home. I love that!

Friday, February 8, 2008

Chock in Pink

A chock is what my husband will have when he comes home today. Although I hope it will be a pleasant chock I am not fully sure it will be...

The chock will be pink and lilac.

You see I am just painting our bedroom and my husband has no idea. The paint was actually for the living room. My husband bought white paint and extra color so we could get the color we liked without spending too much. Well the orange turned salmon and the red turned pink. I think that next time we will just buy the right color from the start. :)

And this morning I started thinking that it would be really nice with a nice lilac color in our room. I mean we have a big bucket of pink paint, we can't just throw it out. Well I am only painting one wall but boy is that enough! The wall has some green paint on it, since we painted the house and wanted to see what color our bedroom could be, and the pink won't cover it!

So I have to paint over the spot a million times before it is covered I think. I have also decided that it would be nice to have two big stripes on the wall, one darker pink and one lighter pink. The pink turned out to be lighter than it looks so my coloring isn't going according to plan. Because time is not on my hand I am feeling slightly stressed for the paint to dry so I can continue with the rest of the wall.... Thanks to whoever invented the hairdryer, it's handy in times like these :)

OK you are allowed to shake your heads now, thats OK. :)

I'll show you before and after when it's finished, now pray my husband will like it ...

Friday, February 1, 2008

Only a few days to go

Next week the long holiday for Choriço will be over. When his holiday is over I will have to start working again. I am already working but not as much as I'd like to actually.

And I am looking forward to it. I am looking forward to working more and learning more. Last year was a very good year for me, I learned a lot and hope to learn even more this year. This is the year when I will be organized and effective.

Only a few days to go.. and then I will miss my baby during the day but instead I hope to spend more time with him when he is at home. The baby is in fact too big to be called a baby, next year he will start pre-school here. Help! Time flies too soon.

And when he goes back to nursery; you can be sure I will be blogging away! :)